Thursday, November 5, 2015

FRIDAY QUOTE





The biggest Mistake you can ever make in life,is to be scared to start all over.It could be a Relationship,Work,Project,Relocation.A friend of mine was in a relationship for 3 years with a guy that didn't care about her,but she was so into the relationship that the thought of starting over scared her.she just had to stay.But when she left,she said she felt so much self worth that was lost while she accepted those bullshit in the relationship.
   Starting all over can help you learn how to love yourself better and be happy as an individual.


                                   STEPS TO TAKE WHEN STARTING ALL OVER

Talk to  God.When everything seems so difficult and you are @ a crossroad,talk to him.Let him be your motivation.

Don't hesitate to act.Don't say its too late to start all over,because the truth is no matter the time you start your journey,you should only focus on your goal of getting there.

Know that you will definitely face critic,they would wonder why you are giving everything up.Don't let them win you over by talks or discourage you,If you are sure its the right path to take.
                      
           Always Remember that to start all over is a GIFT,not everybody gets the chance to do so.I pray none of us take the gift of starting all over for granted.

Tuesday, November 3, 2015

TOP 10 BOOKS TO READ

                                                  
Hi Readers,
Today i bring to you list of 10 books i have read.They are great books,so i decided to share with you[am a nice girl].so i hope you enjoy them as i did.

1. Chimmanda Ngozi Adiche
AMERICANAH

From the award winning author of half of a yellow sun,comes a fearless novel about love,race,home,hair,Obama,immigration and self invention.Chimmanda Ngozi Adiche's Americanah is set in Nigeria,England and America.
                         In the early 1990's,under Abacha's government,ifemelu and obinze fall in love.People are leaving the country if they can and ifemelu leaves for America,where alongside defeats and triumphs,she confronts the inevitable question of race.Obinze,unable to join her in America,goes on to live as an illegal immigrant in London.
    After several years they have both achieved success-Ifemelu as a popular blogger about race,and obinze as a wealthy man in the now democratic Nigeria.
When ifemelu decided to come to Nigeria,she and obinze must both make the biggest decision of their lives.


2.LESLEY PEARSE
FATHER UNKNOWN

One young woman in search of a past - and a future ...
Sweet-natured but dappy Daisy Buchan drifts from job to job and takes her policeman boyfriend Joel for granted. She's happy, but she doesn't know what she wants from life.
But when her adoptive mother dies and leaves her twenty-five-year-old daughter a scrapbook of memories, Daisy finally discovers who she is and where she came from. Her real mother was a teenage farmer's daughter from Cornwall - and Daisy drops everything to go and find her. But in going in search of her past, is Daisy risking the future of her relationship not only with her adored dad but also with Joel? And will she be able to deal with the truth about her real parents and the real Daisy?

3 ADAOBI TRICIA NWAUBANI
I DO NOT COME TO YOU BY CHANCE

Kingsley ibe has the world at his feet.He has the university degree ,and ola his African queen.As the eldest son,he also gets a little meat with his egusi stew.life is sweet.But then tragedy strikes in the family and kingsley is forced to become the breadwinner.As cash flow becomes an issue,Ola moves to the next guy who can buy her a Dolce and Gabbana watch and Gucci slippers.
    In desperation,he turns to his uncle-cash daddy-for help.Cash daddy is a successful email fraudster,with the waist,the Versace jeans and the YSI shirts to prove it.Will kingsley survive,or will he get sucked into the 419 abyss?

4 SEFI ATTA
   EVERYTHING GOOD WILL COME

Everything Good Will Come tells the story of Enitan, a young Nigerian woman growing up in her native homeland coping with the demands of the patriarchal society that encompasses her. Enitan is raised in a divided home struggling to identify herself in the midst of her mother’s strong religious beliefs and her father’s manipulative political ways. Due to her being an only child and the death of her brother, her parents have strict demands that restrict her from having a normal childhood. Her rebellious nature is first seen when she defies her mother’s wishes and leaves the house on Sundays to play with the girl next door, Sheri, who is considered “yellow” because her father is Muslim and her mother is a white English woman. Sheri is a sassy young girl sassy with a rebellious nature, constantly testing those around her, while craving the attention of any male. Their friendship builds as they continue to defy Enitan’s mother by seeing each other. The girls are soon forced to separate; Enitan is sent to a school abroad to receive a better education than that offered in Lagos. Her father, an educated lawyer, wants the best for her and hopes she will take over his firm once she has finished school and proves herself as a lawyer. Sheri and Enitan keep in touch, writing letters back and forth about school, boys, and when they will meet again. During a holiday visit home, Enitan and Sheri meet up and go to a party. Enitan, who doesn’t feel comfortable in the situation, wants to leave. On her way out, she witnesses the three men pinning Sheri down raping her and bruising her body as they degrade her. The image of Sheri’s rape affects Enitan’s ability to allow herself to trust men. The aftermath of Sheri’s rape leads to a partial termination of their friendship and Sheri being sent to the hospital due to an attempt to give herself an abortion.
Years pass and Enitan returns to Lagos to stay with her father and work under him to start her career as a lawyer. She begins dating a struggling artist, Mike, and has an emotionally complex but short-lived relationship with him. Enitan runs into Sheri one afternoon and reconnects with her. Sheri is a mistress to a Muslim brigadier, who pays for her living and gives Sheri a good life. Sheri believes in playing the system rather than settling down with a man because she is aware of the lack of individualism a woman receives once she becomes married in their society.
Enitan gradually becomes closer with a man called Niyi Franco, who is separated from his only child who was taken away by his ex-wife when they moved to Britain. This relationship quickly becomes a marriage. Enitan at first feels comfort and safety in Niyi’s arms, but their relationship is soon tested when she refuses to submit to his demanding ways and struggles to conceive and carry a child. After she becomes pregnant, Niyi and Enitan's differences over each other's behavior and expectations build. In addition to the stress from her failing marriage, her father’s political outspokenness and subsequent arrest forces her into activism and results in a night in jail. Enitan joins a group of women in the fight against the government for women’s rights during her pregnancy. Her drive for change is frowned upon by her husband, who wants her to stay at home and take on “women-like” tasks. Niyi’s lack of support for his wife’s beliefs, along with her unwillingness to concede to his requests, leads to their separation. Enitan continues to stand up for what she believe: wanting women to have the ability to choose whether or not they will be submissive in society with hopes for individuality.
5.CATHERINE COOKSON
THE BLACK CANDLE

Yorkshire in the 1880's: Joe Skinner marries Lily Whitmore, the woman he has long admired, to give a name to her illegitimate child by Lionel Fillmore, the opportunistic son of an impoverished aristocrat. Lionel, however, has his sights set on Victoria, the naive cousin of hard-working Bridget Mordaunt, and the wealth he wrongly assumes is hers. When Joe's shiftless brother Fred threatens his marriage plans, Lionel murders him and the blame falls on Joe. Bridget's warm regard for Joe sets her on a quest to prove his innocence, the pursuit of which reveals the sordid manipulations and evil that surround Lionel. Just when Lionel believes his crime will never be discovered, Douglas, his gentle sculptor brother finds the murder weapon---and the killer's identity


6.KATE LONG
THE BAD MOTHER'S HANDBOOK


The Bad Mother's Handbook is the story of a year in the lives of Charlotte, Karen and Nan, none of whom can quite believe how things have turned out. Why is it all so difficult? Why do the most ridiculous mistakes have the most disastrous consequences? When are you too old to throw up in a flowerbed after too much vodka? When are you too young to be a mother? Both hilarious and wise, it is a clear-eyed look at motherhood - and childhood - in its many guises, from the moment the condom breaks to the moment you file for divorce or, more optimistically, from the moment you hear your baby's first cry to the moment you realize that there are as many sorts of mother as there are children, and that love sometimes is the most important thing of all

7.JANE GREEN
JEMIMA.JONES


Jemima Jones is a clever, good-hearted, but self-depreciating columnist for a small newspaper in England. She envies her slim, glamorous coworker Geraldine, and resents her two likewise slim flatmates, who frequently mock her for her size. She has a large crush on Ben, the office hunk, but due to her weight she feels embarrassed to approach him.
When her office finally gets internet access, Jemima begins visiting chatrooms and develops a long-distance relationship with a handsome gym owner named Brad from Santa Monica, California. At the same time, Ben leaves the newspaper for a television position, leaving Jemima alone with a broken heart.
To get over Ben, Jemima throws herself into her online relationship with Brad and re-invents herself as "JJ", an attractive newsreader. Her friends further the false identity by photoshopping Jemima's face onto a thin, attractive model. After seeing her photo, Brad immediately invites her to visit California and stay at his home. Jemima impulsively accepts the invitation and finds herself forced to lose over one hundred pounds in three months in order to match the image of "JJ." As Jemima slims down, Geraldine takes the role of her fairy godmother, buying Jemima a whole new wardrobe, coloring her hair, and teaching her how to use make-up.
Having lost the weight, Jemima goes to California and is met by Brad, who takes her to his impressive Santa Monica home. Soon, however, she begins to realize that the glamorous life in California isn't all it's cracked up to be. Jemima and Brad turn out to be incompatible in every way except physically. Jemima is soon lonely and disenchanted.
To distract herself, Jemima throws herself into exercising and soon becomes dangerously underweight. She quickly realizes her new found obsession with thinness is as unhealthy as her former obesity, and comes to the conclusion that her obesity was a cover for lifelong insecurity issues that are still present even though she is now thin.
The final straw comes when Jemima, while cleaning Brad's apartment, accidentally discovers a huge stash of fat fetish pornography. She confronts Brad, who confesses that he is very attracted to larger women but needs a slim, attractive girlfriend in order to keep up appearances in beauty-conscious Santa Monica. Jemima, upset and horrified at the betrayal, leaves.
By happenstance, Jemima learns that Ben has become a minor celebrity and is, at the moment, on a trip to California. Jemima rushes to meet him. Ben, who has not seen Jemima since her transformation, barely recognizes her, but the two quickly realize that their feelings go far deeper than appearances. The two return to England and start a relationship. Jemima is happy, lets go of her body issues, and learns to love herself for who she is.
CATHERINE COOKSON
THE BLACK VELVET GOWN

There would be times when Riah Millican came to regret that her husband had learned to read and write, and then shared his knowledge with her and their children.  For this was Durham in the 1830's, when employers tended to regard the spread of education with suspicion.  But now Seth Millican was dead and she was a widow with the need to find a home and a living for herself and her children.

The chance of becoming a housekeeper didn't work out, but it led to Moor House and a scholarly recluse obsessed with that very book learning that could open so many doors and yet create so many problems; especially with her daughter, Biddy, who was not only bright, but witful...

THE BLACK VELVET GOWN is the story of a mother and daughter, often at odds with each other, facing the need to challenge and fight the prejudice of an age--a narrative of great power and diversity that is one of Catherine Cookson's major achievements.


9.LAUREN WELSBERGER
THE DEVIL WEAR'S PRADA


Andrea Sachs, a recent graduate of Brown University with a degree in English, moves to New York City with her best friend, Lily, a graduate student at Columbia. Andrea hopes to find a career in publishing and blankets the city with her résumé. She believes she'll be closer to her dream of working for The New Yorker if she can get a job in the magazine industry. She gets a surprise interview at the Elias-Clark Group and is hired as junior assistant for Miranda Priestly, editor-in-chief of the fashion magazine Runway. Although she knows little of the fashion world, everyone tells her that "a million girls would die for [her] job". If she manages to work for Miranda for a year, people tell her, she can have her choice of jobs within the magazine industry.
At a celebrity party, Andrea meets Christian Collinsworth, a charismatic Yale graduate who is considered one of the hot, new up-and-coming writers of their generation. They are attracted to each other, which complicates her relationship with her boyfriend, Alex.
Andrea's relationships become entangled because of her new job. Lily increasingly turns to alcohol and picks up dubious men to relieve the pressure of graduate school. Alex, struggling with his own demanding job as an inner-city schoolteacher, grows frustrated with Andrea's long hours and constant stress. Andrea's relationship with her family also suffers. Matters finally come to a head when her co-worker, Emily, gets mononucleosis and Andrea must travel to Paris with Miranda in her stead. Andrea agrees, although this means canceling a long-awaited trip with Alex to a Brown University reunion at the Biltmore Providence Hotel.
In Paris, she has a surprise encounter with Christian. Later that night, Miranda finally lets down her guard and asks Andrea what she has learned, and where she wants to work afterwards. She promises to place phone calls to people she knows at the New Yorker on Andrea's behalf once her year is up and suggests she take on some small writing assignments at Runway.
Back at the hotel, Andrea gets urgent calls from Alex and her parents asking her to call them. She does and learns that Lily is IN coma after driving drunk and wrecking a car. Though her family and Alex pressure her to return home, she tells Miranda she will honor her commitment to Runway. Miranda is pleased, and says her future in magazine publishing is bright, but phones with another impossible demand at Christian Dior's Paris fashion show. Andrea decides that her family and friends are more important than her job, and realizes to her horror that she is becoming more and more like Miranda. She refuses to comply with Miranda's latest outrageous request, and when Miranda scolds her publicly, Andrea replies, "Fuck you, Miranda. Fuck you". She is fired on the spot, and returns home to reconnect with friends and family. Her romantic relationship with Alex is beyond repair, but they remain friends. Lily recovers and is lucky to receive only community service for her DUI charge.
In the last chapter Andrea learns her dispute with Miranda made her a minor celebrity when the incident made "Page Six". Afraid she has been blacklisted from publishing for good, she moves back with her parents. She works on short fiction and finances her unemployment with profits made from reselling the designer clothing she was provided for her Paris trip. Seventeen buys one of her stories. At the novel's end, she returns to the Elias-Clark building to discuss a position at one of the company's other magazines and sees Miranda's new junior assistant, who looks as harried and put-upon as she once did.
10.JOHN GRISHAM
THE TESTAMENT


Troy Phelan, an eccentric elderly billionaire, has written many wills during his life, but right before he dies by suicide, he leaves one final will, a holographic will, as a last surprise. He then leaps from a balcony to his death. He leaves his vast fortune to an illegitimate daughter, Rachel Lane, instead of his six children by three marriages. Her existence comes as a total surprise to everyone. His reason is revulsion over years of fighting with, and embarrassment from, his family, as well as their greed — much of which was due to his neglect of his children and multiple affairs (both personal and business).
His lawyers are now tasked with protecting Troy's wishes as well as finding the heiress. Nate O'Riley, a high-powered litigation lawyer and now recovering alcoholic, is sent to Brazil, where Rachel is believed to be living as a missionary.
While Nate is trying to find Rachel, Troy's family does everything in their power to contest the new will. They argue that although Troy was examined by three of the top psychiatrists in the nation, he was lacking sanity at the time of the new will.
The journey into the Pantanal of South America by way of Corumbá nearly kills Nate, but finally he and his guide locate the tribe with which Rachel Lane is living. She refuses the legacy or anything connected with it. Nate is unable to convince her otherwise, and returns to the United States after contracting dengue fever from a mosquito.
In the meantime, the ex-wives, children and respective lawyers continue attempting to destroy and disprove all evidence of Troy Phelan's sanity and even the will itself. They finally decide not to contest the will in court, fearing that their testimony during the deposition will further hurt their case. They also realize that two witnesses for the plaintiff are lying and would be torn to shreds by Nate should a trial ever take place. To settle the matter, Nate agrees that the relatives of Troy Phelan will be paid $50 million each (minus lawyers' fees) to stop turning the will contest into a legal quagmire.
When all is over, Nate returns to the jungle in order to get Rachel to sign off on the settlement, but when he arrives he learns that Rachel has died from malaria. She has, however, left instructions that the money be put into trust for the benefit of the indigenous peoples and that Nate will have control of the trust. The end of the book shows Nate riding off in a boat into the Pantanal, not caring if it took a month to get back to civilization.

Monday, November 2, 2015

THERE IS MORE TO RAPE,THAN WHAT THE MEDIA IS LETTING ON.







Recently,I was talking to a friend about rape,and we both had experiences that made me understand that almost every lady had experienced attempted rape[if not the actual rape].
WHAT IS RAPE?
The act of forcing sexual intercourse upon another person without their consent or against their will.
Many ladies experience rape they have never heard about,never seen in a movie or the ones they don't know exist.why?Because the media has portrayed rape to be something done with you,with a knife to your throat or a gun to your head in a dark place.
                        Most rape cases are not physically violent,they involve much deceptive tactics.The victims are coerced,manipulated,tricked and pressured into doing the will of the predator,when they don't want to and when they firmly say NO.
Rape doesn't have to be committed by a stranger,due to research 80% of rapes are carried out by someone you know,it could be your husband,boyfriend,friend,relative or co-worker.some people don't even know when it occurs.I know of a lady that was raped in her home by a friend.

According to her:He started touching and making uncomfortable talk,he pushed me until he got what he wanted,i kept telling him NO but that didn't stop him.I cried while it happened,i pleaded but he kept going.He made me feel like i was over-reacting.He convinced me that i made the choice to have sex with him,that it was a mistake we both made.He won me over,the same way society would ask me why i invited a man home and why i didn't have bruises to go with my allegation.

We have to make society see that there is more to rape[The unthinkable and Unspeakable] by empowering people with our stories/experiences.There is no such thing as convincing or talking someone into having sex.We have to judge the rapist not the victim.
Happy new month Readers
I hope this month comes with so much joy,laughter,happiness.I hope you all fulfill your dreams.
Let me know your aspirations for this month.