Friday Quote

I know most times we talk without realizing how hurtful our words can be,Our intention might not be wrong but our words might be.
I was talking to someone that is very dear to me and i didn't realize when i said some hurtful words,clearly it wasn't my intention but she does not know that she only knows i hurt her with my words.As my friend would always say 'Your words and not your looks says much of who you are'.We should always think before speaking because the truth is we don't know what the other person might be going through and our words make them feel bad than they already are.

I still cant believe you left
It seems so surreal
You left without explanation
You should have given excuses

Now i will forever question what i did wrong
Now i will forever question where i went wrong
Now i will forever be weary of the word love

Do you miss me at all
Cos i still have you on my mind

I cant even hate you
Cos am thinking the fault is with me
Did i suffocate you with my love ?
I need at least a phone call from you,to explain
Where i went wrong

How It All Starts:Domestic Violence

I am trapped here
I'm just a furniture in your home.
I thought we shared something real and rare
I thought i had finally found love
So when you asked me to be with you forever
When you asked me to be yours
I readily accepted you and i hurriedly said
I do in the presence of God,Priest and guest

I never thought you wanted to own me
I never thought you wanted me as another
Prize you win and lock at home
Until i couldn't talk without being talked to
Until i had to agree with everything you have to say,
Even if it was wrong or I had a different opinion.

Then i saw your anger,once when i didn't make your food on time
You hit me so hard i fell and
It became a ritual/an everyday habit
that i always have a fresh wound on old scars

I couldn't leave,what would society say?
Why is she leaving her husband? he takes care of her
See all the nice dress she wears,her golds.
did she think there's husband outside
If some even knew he beats me,they would justify him
Saying maybe he's frustrated that he does not have a child yet
So he's taking it out on me
So i would leave out the part of  "how i had 3 miscarriage
due to his fist"

What will my parent say?
You have to bear it,when you start having children,
He would stop beating you
You are a married woman,it would be a disgrace to come back to your parent house
What do you want people to say?
We would be a laughing stock
So they would ask you to stay and promise to always Pray and remember you in their prayers

So with that you would go on living with him
Until that day he would beat you so bad
that before you are rushed to the hospital
you give up the ghost

Then your parents would wish they had taken you away when you cried to them
Society would realize the plight of women in a violent home
And you would wish you have thought about only yourself
And not about society/parent
And maybe you could have found someone better
Or you could have been single but ALIVE.

Domestic violence should be a capital offence,maybe men would realize that they could go into rings when they are frustrated and punch bags.
I know a 16 years old girl,she was telling me about her relationship issues and she told me that the people she dates and really like her always hitting her when they are angry[this guys range from 20-22]and i felt so bad for her because she had started seeing it as normal at that age but i tried my best to advise her.

I also see a wife beater material in a guy that beats his sister,am never for a parent to allow a senior brother beats his sister[except in a case that she did something really bad].Most guys they feel they can hit any girl because they hit their sister.There are some instances when i was in school and am arguing with a guy he gets annoyed and tells me am not his sister that he beats at home mate and am like thank God am not your sister.

I also think parent have a large role to play in teaching boys how to respect girls.They should never make them feel superior than the girls.